If you, as a student, are faced with undesirable or transgressive behaviour, it often helps to talk to the other party. You can also contact the confidential counsellor for students, even - or especially - if you are in doubt.
The confidential counsellor advises and guides you in the possible steps you can take, but you always remain in control. They work independently and everything you discuss is confidential.
What is unacceptable behaviour?
Unacceptable behaviour is behaviour that you find such a hindrance that it has a harmful effect on your studies. Nobody but you defines what you regard as unacceptable!
Discrimination, bullying, (sexual) harassment, threats, stalking and gossiping, both online and offline, are all types of unacceptable behaviour. Even if very subtle, it can still have a great impact on your feeling of safety and your pleasure in studying. It can even cause stress and psychological or physical complaints. Please don’t keep it to yourself but talk about it.
- You receive intrusive messages from a fellow student;
- You experience racism or discrimination;
- A lecturer pays you more than average attention;
- You pick up sexual innuendos or jokes, or people touch you without reason, put their hands on you, or block your path;
- Your fellow students ignore you, or you are always given the most unpleasant tasks in a group assignment;
- You feel uncomfortable about being involved in gossip about a fellow student, a teacher, an adviser or other people you are in contact with during your study;
- You feel that fellow students or other people are not
taking you seriously.
You can also contact the confidential counsellor if you have witnessed unwanted behaviour directed at someone else.
What can the confidential counsellor do for you?
Anke van Oostveen and Klaartje Thierry are confidential counsellors for students at WUR. How can they support you?
- They offer a sympathetic ear;
- Support if you experience unwanted or transgressive behaviour;
- Searching for solutions together in dialogue;
- Discussing possible steps;
- Guiding when you wish;
- Referring to (in- and external) support agencies;
- The confidential counsellor works andin strict confidence, and you are always in control!
What can you do yourself?
It is allways a good idea to first discuss undesirable behavior with the other person. They may not be aware of the effect their behavior is having on you. You can tell them that you experience their behavior as unwanted, hurtful or even threatening.
You can also discuss it with someone you trust, a teacher, study advisor or friend. If this does not solve anything, or if it is not possible, for example because the behavior is too serious, please contact a confidential counsellor.